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No leader wants to let a god employee go. Even outside of these harsh and uncertain economic times, business scenarios persist where, as leaders, you find yourself having to deliver some very bad news to some very good employees.

Without question, it's one of the most painful parts of being a leader. But you can let people go without abandoning them emotionally. It's a skill every leader needs to learn.

Actually, how you lay someone off should be an extension of how you lead. Great leaders do both with compassion, integrity, and candor. They lead with an open heart and the assurance that employees do have what it takes to excel -- and they let people go the same way.

Effective leaders inspire employees, engage their emotions, and help them pinpoint and pursue their passions. More importantly, there not a person employees follow because they have to, rather they’re a person they want to follow. That includes not shying away from talking about what it looks like to fire someone the heartfelt way.

Here are some key tips to follow.


Remember the Golden Rule

If you must lay somebody off, the best approach to take is: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The Golden Rule is a guiding principle that leaders should live by every day, but never is it more important than when employees are at their most vulnerable. Imagine how you would want to be treated if you were to lose your job and move forward with that in mind. You would not want to hear bad news via email or a mass Zoom call, or be treated as if you didn't matter to your supervisor and your company.


Be there – emotionally

Once I had to lay off my team when I worked for AT&T. When my first team member came into my office, I motioned for him to sit on the sofa instead of in one of the chairs on the opposite side of my desk. I immediately came out from behind my desk and sat right next to my team member, turning toward him. I was right there next to this employee as I laid out the details of what was going to happen.

Obviously, this physical closeness likely can't happen now due to social distancing. But Boelkes says leaders can and must find a way to keep that spirit of human connection and caring – even if you must deliver the bad news via video chat.

Schedule a one-on-one meeting when you have a lot of time, because you will want to offer plenty of space for the conversation. If you keep your message authentic, from the heart, and honest, they are most likely to receive it well.


Spell out how they can leverage their strengths

This is a time, in particular, when people need to be reminded of the gifts they bring to the table. Be specific as you recount the many contributions the person has made to the team and the organization. Share how much you honor, respect, and admire them and remind them that other organizations will recognize and value their skills and abilities, as well.

Reassure the person that these terrible times won't last forever. A sense of hope may be the best gift you can give them right now.


Brainstorm their next step

After you have broken the news, roll up your sleeves and make yourself an ally to your employee as they begin envisioning their future. Discuss with them what they would really love to be doing going forward. Brainstorm about the type of jobs they would love to have. Review the kind of companies in the local region or elsewhere that might have good opportunities for them to do the things they really want to do.

To get the ball rolling, ask, "What is important to you in life, and what makes you excited about your career?" Listen closely to each response.


Help them find their next role

Assure the employee that you will do everything in your power to help them land their dream job. Call around to any contacts you have and inquire about potential job opportunities for each member of your staff. Give referrals freely. Help them come up with stretch assignments that will give them more experience and prepare them for potential opportunities they are interested in pursuing.

Later, when things open back up, coach them through the interview process. Touch base with the team member through their interview process at other companies. Make yourself available to run mock interviews and check in often to see how they are doing. They will appreciate having a mentor through this challenging process.

There's no escaping the discomfort and pain caused by layoffs, but these steps keep the suffering to a minimum. You have the responsibility to send an employee off into the job market hopeful and inspired, not angry or hurt. If you've done your job right and acted from a place of love, they'll leave knowing that the best part of their life is still ahead.

Deb Boelkes an authority on creating best places to work, with 25+ years in Fortune 150 high-tech firms, leading superstar business development and professional services teams. She is the author of The WOW Factor Workplace: How to Create a Best Place to Work Culture and Heartfelt Leadership: How to Capture the Top Spot and Keep on Soaring.